Browsing All posts tagged under »gender identity«

Some People Are Gay. Get Over It!

June 21, 2016

1

The entire week has been a moving week for my family and I. I stumbled on my old stonewall T-shirt and I suddenly understood the meaning of the message ‘Some People Are Gay. Get Over It!’ We just moved to a new house and the move has been really bittersweet and nostalgic. I found so many […]

Manoeuvring Queer in Nigeria is Like Learning to Parallel Park

December 6, 2012

10

I have now been in Nigeria for over a little over a month and while the overall experience of catching up with family has been wonderful, a number of things have also happened that have ticked the queer in me off. I am learning with time how to react to some of them and exploring […]

Queer Family Relations

April 9, 2012

5

 What to do about tensions that have been caused by automatically assuming that your Nigerian extended family will be hostile to you for being queer?    A lot of people talk about the terrible things that they have suffered at the hands of family members for being queer or same-sex loving. This article is not […]

“Zhe: [Noun] undefined reviewed” – Not Just Another Gay Play

March 17, 2012

5

I was lucky enough to see ‘Zhe: [noun] undefined‘, a performance piece created by Chuck Mike,  Artistic Director of Collective Artistes, Antonia Kemi Coker and Tonderai Munyevu. Collective Artistes is a theatre production company that produces socially relevant plays that tell the stories of the African Diaspora. Their newest creation Zhe follows the lives of two […]

Is “Coming Out” Necessary?

February 7, 2012

10

How did you come out? And why did you decide to do it when you did? In this post I share 2 coming out stories before addressing the question ‘is coming out necessary?’ The first coming out story is Shannon’s and the second is mine. Shannon writes a really cool blog called “So You Want […]

Unlocking the Queer in Me: my journey from Goldstar lesbian to all embracing queer

January 12, 2012

7

Written by Avery Parks (also known as “Friend 2” in “Will Lesbian ever stop being a dirty word?”) I now identify as ‘queer’ and I’m completely at ease with this description of myself. When I first came out I identified as ‘gay’. That was when I was 14 years old. When I got to university at […]

Will Lesbian ever stop being a dirty word?

January 6, 2012

10

This article features two friends: Friend 1 self-identifies as a straight  woman who occasionally falls for the odd woman. She is OK with kissing men  but she hates penis. Friend 2 identifies as a gay woman or lesbian who loves  vajayjay and all things lesbian feminist but prefers to ‘come out’ by saying  she is […]