88 ‘Til Infinity

April 16, 2014


On this day each year, I usually reflect on the past one. Since I’ve neglected this blog so badly I thought I should stop by and share some of what I’m thinking. My theme for this year is Joy. Joy, because I’m at a very happy place in life. This past year has been very […]

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Sexual Health For WSWs in Nigeria And Coming Out to My Doctor

January 12, 2014


If you lived in Nigeria where it’s almost illegal to be gay or lesbian would you feel confident in coming out to your doctor? I had to recently. I didn’t feel scared of being judged because I couldn’t give a rat’s ass what she thought. I was more concerned about my health. When you’ve been […]

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Would You Get A Beard?

October 14, 2013


To put it simply, out here in Nigeria no one takes you seriously if you’re a young woman who is of marriageable age but is unmarried. Some people consider you unlucky; others see you as unserious. I watched a TV show yesterday on Ebony Life TV called Girl Talk. It’s a bunch of women sitting around […]

My Two Loves

August 3, 2013


My very first love has grey eyes. She loves sports and all things fitness, is kind and compassionate, utterly ambitious and is god’s gift to women in bed. My second love has deep brown eyes surrounded by a flutter of long eyelashes. She thinks her eyes are her best feature but I think her bum wins […]

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I Suspect All Women

May 16, 2013


Well, not all of them but some.  They walk up to you bold; Under the guise of friendship “I just want to be your friend if that’s cool”, she says.    And she seems cool.    A cool friend.    Showing you around town, picking you up, dropping you off,   Taking you to parties […]

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Interview With Maker of Sagba, a Film on Being Gay and Nigerian

March 24, 2013


Last Sunday, I had the chance to have a lovely conversation with Teju Oluokun, a Nigerian London-based filmmaker who has just released Sagba, a docu-style short film about being gay and Nigeria. Sagba means struggle in Yoruba, one of the local languages spoken in Nigeria. We spoke about Teju’s motivation behind making the film and […]

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On Spiritual Growth and Sexuality

March 14, 2013


Coming up I’ve had to struggle with aligning spiritual growth with my sexuality. I believe in journeys, spreading one’s wings and generally moving forward. My family is Christian and my mum in particular always drove us to look for places to nurture ourselves. For her that was the church. Although, I can draw some good lessons […]

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