You’re good enough when you say you’re good enough – #ColorsRNotShame

October 17, 2017

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You’re good enough only when you believe you’re good enough. Let that thought sink in. Relying on outsiders for validation is a dangerous thing. Yet, that is exactly how society functions. Humans are raised to compete against one another- for the best grades in school, from a very young age to promotions at work. And even more […]

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Dykeroad– Six years on

October 10, 2017

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Como Oct. 2017

Recently, I was planning a catching up with a former colleague and was thinking of how I would reply her when she asked me the standard, ‘What are you up to these days?’ My thoughts were focused on how to explain that I finally embraced my calling to do some pretty awesome gay shit. It […]

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Some People Are Gay. Get Over It!

June 21, 2016

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The entire week has been a moving week for my family and I. I stumbled on my old stonewall T-shirt and I suddenly understood the meaning of the message ‘Some People Are Gay. Get Over It!’ We just moved to a new house and the move has been really bittersweet and nostalgic. I found so many […]

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President Buhari, it’s OK to say gay

June 20, 2016

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Buhari’s seemingly innocuous statement calling the Orlando shooting a ‘criminal’ & ‘cowardly’ act conveniently omits that the targeted victims were LGBT. Source: President Buhari, it’s OK to say gay

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Learning to Love Yourself- My Love/Hate/Love Hair Affair

January 22, 2016

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I did something very cool this week. I started the week by cutting my hair short. In my life, this should not be a big deal. I’ve had short hair of varying lengths for the past 8 years. I had really really short hair, punk cuts, and mohawks but this particular cut was a big […]

Lagos, where it’s still a thrill to be gay

September 23, 2015

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I wrote something fun for True Africa Even in religiously conservative countries like the US, same-sex marriage is legal. Things are different in Nigeria. But despite laws, the threat of imprisonment and the death penalty, gay life in that country is pumping. If you’ve lived in Lagos you probably already know this, but just in […]

The Closet Is Not Your Friend

April 7, 2015

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I used to think that the closet was just a mythical bad place that people struggled to break out of until I encountered some situations that have painted it as a safe haven where other folks plan to live and die in. Some people will do whatever it takes to remain firmly in the closet. […]