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First Rains

March 5, 2018


2018 has been spectacular for me– opening up to a new romance has been so many things. I’ve been dating my special person for over 8 weeks now.   I have not spoken about it with many people. Usually, I talk people’s ears off when I  first start dating someone new. I want to talk […]

Things I forgot I loved

January 29, 2018


Sitting quietly alone at home. It’s not that quiet– I can still hear cars driving past. Sometimes, the annoying noise of the neighbour’s generator, birds chirping too loudly, and if I’m unlucky, the church next door. But the times when I can tamper down the noise, I love to be able to sit and just […]

My new lover and our disappearing messages

January 11, 2018


When this is over, there will be few traces of our affair. This post. I like to store things. Concert tickets, rail tickets, old flyers, birthday cards from when I was 19. Texts, DMs and emails, I save those too. I archive them somewhere up in the cloud. With my new lover, our messages last […]

Intimacy outside of sex– to what end?

November 17, 2017


I’m in a sweet state of allure after getting the most beautiful night’s rest in the arms of an incredible woman. I must have spent about 10% of the night fully asleep and the rest of it in this mellow space between sleep and wakefulness. I was enjoying it too much to fully fall asleep. […]

Learning to Love Yourself- My Love/Hate/Love Hair Affair

January 22, 2016


I did something very cool this week. I started the week by cutting my hair short. In my life, this should not be a big deal. I’ve had short hair of varying lengths for the past 8 years. I had really really short hair, punk cuts, and mohawks but this particular cut was a big […]

Lagos, where it’s still a thrill to be gay

September 23, 2015


I wrote something fun for True Africa Even in religiously conservative countries like the US, same-sex marriage is legal. Things are different in Nigeria. But despite laws, the threat of imprisonment and the death penalty, gay life in that country is pumping. If you’ve lived in Lagos you probably already know this, but just in […]

The Closet Is Not Your Friend

April 7, 2015


I used to think that the closet was just a mythical bad place that people struggled to break out of until I encountered some situations that have painted it as a safe haven where other folks plan to live and die in. Some people will do whatever it takes to remain firmly in the closet. […]