Lagos, where it’s still a thrill to be gay

September 23, 2015


I wrote something fun for True Africa Even in religiously conservative countries like the US, same-sex marriage is legal. Things are different in Nigeria. But despite laws, the threat of imprisonment and the death penalty, gay life in that country is pumping. If you’ve lived in Lagos you probably already know this, but just in […]

The Closet Is Not Your Friend

April 7, 2015


I used to think that the closet was just a mythical bad place that people struggled to break out of until I encountered some situations that have painted it as a safe haven where other folks plan to live and die in. Some people will do whatever it takes to remain firmly in the closet. […]

She Calls Me “Gucci Bag”

April 29, 2014


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guest post by Anonymous I got my first “proper”…nah “mature” pussy licking by this girl who owned a fake Gucci bag. It was supposed to be a one night stand that turned into a two time relationship. So I had to see her again, although I was thinking to myself that I might probably catch […]

Posted in: Personal Accounts

The Crime of Leaving and Moving On

April 27, 2014


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When you’re one half of a couple, you sometimes get seen as a single piece. Especially in circles of friends where everyone is partnered up. It’s often, “What are you guys up to this weekend?”, “Oh, A and B and coming”, “But they usually have brunch together on Sunday mornings” and many other descriptors that signify that […]

Posted in: Opinion

88 ‘Til Infinity

April 16, 2014


On this day each year, I usually reflect on the past one. Since I’ve neglected this blog so badly I thought I should stop by and share some of what I’m thinking. My theme for this year is Joy. Joy, because I’m at a very happy place in life. This past year has been very […]

Posted in: Personal Accounts

Sexual Health For WSWs in Nigeria And Coming Out to My Doctor

January 12, 2014



If you lived in Nigeria where it’s almost illegal to be gay or lesbian would you feel confident in coming out to your doctor? I had to recently. I didn’t feel scared of being judged because I couldn’t give a rat’s ass what she thought. I was more concerned about my health. When you’ve been […]

Posted in: Personal Accounts

Would You Get A Beard?

October 14, 2013


To put it simply, out here in Nigeria no one takes you seriously if you’re a young woman who is of marriageable age but is unmarried. Some people consider you unlucky; others see you as unserious. I watched a TV show yesterday on Ebony Life TV called Girl Talk. It’s a bunch of women sitting around […]


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